Valentine’s Day

With the “day of love” quickly approaching, many of you are probably feeling pressure to do something spectacular because your significant other loves valentine’s day.  Let me put your mind at ease a bit by saying this; your girl doesn’t necessarily want something big and grand.  In fact, it’s not really exactly what you give or do for her at all.  Rather it’s the thought and effort put into it.

This article is going to be short and to the point, mostly because there isn’t much that is needed to be said.  I know that a lot of guys feel pressure to really go all out and spend tons of money on their girlfriend by buying dozens of roses and whatnot.  Most of the girls that I know don’t even really want the flowers specifically.  What girls want to know is that you were thinking about them.  They want to feel special and loved (just like we all do).  And of course you want to love them and show them how much they mean to you.

So it’s not really WHAT you give them, but the time and effort that you put into your Valentine’s day gift or event.  For example, if you know that your girl has been talking about “needing” something for a few weeks/months, that would be a good thing to get for them.  It shows thoughtfulness and that you were actually listening to what they were saying.  Don’t give them what YOU want to give them or what YOU think is nice.

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For example, a girl I know was telling me that a guy she was dating got her a dozen roses for a birthday present one time.  They were probably expensive, but her point was that it didn’t take much thought or effort to get roses.  Also, flowers should be a little gift here and there but not the MAIN gift.  I give my girlfriend flowers all the time, but I do it randomly just as a sweet gesture.  I never give flowers for a birthday present or anything.  That being said, this whole concept of gift giving or event planning can go for any holiday, not just Valentine’s day.

Cheers,

Pierre VonAyre aka “The Professor”