Online Dating Step 1: Getting Started

Online dating; the final frontier.  A totally different part of the “dating world,” completely different than the night or day scene.  It is a place where you can meet more women in the span of an hour than you ever could in the field.  A place where it’s extremely easy to find many women which could be dating potential, but hard to actually get the one you want to talk to you.  Women get even more men messaging them online than they get approached in the field.  In a bar, a beautiful woman is surrounded by her friends who shield her from many approaches.  Also, guys are more timid to approach a woman in person.  However, online is a totally different story.

Online dating

Women get TONS of emails online.  When I say tons, I mean at least 20-50 a day.  That’s not an exaggeration.  When was the last time you got that many emails from women in one day?  I’ve asked women myself, and have even made a fake profile online to test it out.  What’s worse is that a good number of the emails are disgusting, saying things like, “Hey girl, I got a big dick if you want to F**k sometime.”  No wonder girls put up such big shields against guys!  However, most of the emails are boring, saying things like “Hi, what’s up?” or some variation of that.

Therefore, before getting on one of the many dating websites, you need to make up your mind to be different and to stand out from the crowd.  You also need to be prepared to get rejected and to just shrug it off and move on to the next.

The way to get started is to find the right dating site to use.  Choosing the right site is a lot like choosing the right bar or club to go to (see our article on Location).  Different sites will yield different results.  Sites like, or other paying sites, will have less women than free sites but the women on there are likely to be better “quality” because they actually paid to be there so they are more serious.  Free sites that are good are sites like okcupid and plentyoffish.  I am in no way affiliated with any of these sites, so I could care less where you go.  These free sites will have a lot more women to choose from, but many of them will not be serious because a lot of them just sign up because they’re bored.

Keeping all of that in mind, look around a bit and see which sites you like best.  You should even sign up on multiple sites to get more exposure.  Stay tuned for the next step: creating your profile.


Pierre VonAyre