Online Dating Part 3: The Profile

Last time I talked about how to pick the right pictures for your profile (which is obviously a very important step).  Even more important however, is the content of your actual profile.  If you have an awesome profile, you’ll find your response rate to be much better, and girls will actually message you as well!  On the other hand, if your profile sucks then I can guarantee you will spend the weekend on your couch by yourself with a movie and a pizza.girl online dating

So how do you get started?  Well for one thing, you must keep in mind that online dating is somewhat similar to approaching women in the real world in that you need to stand out from every other guy out there.  What do I mean by that specifically?  After a while of searching through many women’s profiles, you will find that many of them say the exact same thing over and over again.  “I like to go out and have fun, but I also like a movie night at home.”  No crap, who doesn’t.  “I don’t like drama.”  Sure you don’t.  And so on and so forth.  In fact, you will probably start to get bored of reading most girl’s profiles after a while because most of them are the same (more or less).  So when you find a girl’s profile that is really unique, it will stand out to you and even if she isn’t your type you will be more likely to message her because she’s “different.”

In the same way, guy’s profiles tend to be exactly the same after a while as well.  So the first thing that I suggest you do is, before you start searching for women, search through some guys out there and figure out the patterns being used.  Then after you figure that out, don’t use those patterns!  Okay so you like sports, well lots of guys do.  Boring!  I’m sure there are other things about yourself that you can talk about.

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As to what EXACTLY you should put on your profile, I can’t really say because everyone is unique.  Let your uniqueness shine like the sun.  I think that you should be able to creatively find a way to make yourself stand out from the rest of the herd.  What I can say is this; there should be plenty of (obvious) humor sprinkled throughout your profile.  By obvious I mean, a lot of times jokes don’t translate well online (like sarcasm for instance).

As always, never lie about yourself and try to paint an accurate picture of who you are.  Make sure to leave a little room for mystery and questions though, so don’t spill all your information online.  For example, if you have traveled to a few countries don’t say which ones specifically, just say something like, “I’m well-traveled, I’ve been to 5 different countries before and love to experience new cultures (extra points if you can guess which ones).”  Always portray yourself as a confident guy with lots of good qualities to offer (which should be true!).


Pierre VonAyre aka “The Professor”